A story of three friends…..
Let us review the lives of three friends who have grown up together; Alex, Jason, and Richard. These three friends all work in an accounting firm downtown. Their lives are pretty intermingled.
They are all married. Have houses in the same neighborhood, and are paid a mutual sum every month. Let us examine how small change can drift their lives apart in their mid-30s.
Alex is always content with his position at the firm. He has a lovely wife and a kid, and doesn’t care much for the comings and goings of the world.
Jason is beginning to grow a little bit ambitious about his life. But not so much as to start planning for anything, mind you. He just knows that there is always room for improvement.
Meanwhile, Richard is not caring much for the life he is living. Not that he doesn’t enjoy it, but he feels that he doesn’t have to work hard for it.
Jason starts doing some things quite unconsciously. He starts reading books in the subway on the way to work. On the way back home, he listens to podcasts and tries to learn another language.
Alex is living his life as usual. No change whatsoever. He is still doing a good job at work and is loved by his wife and his child.
Richard develops a new and weird habit. He bakes muffins every day, and word spreads that he is actually quite good at it. People around him start applauding him for his baking skills.
The three are living their lives. In spite of their small and insignificant differences, their lives are pretty much the same.
After three months, the results are the same. After six months, they are still living a life that resembles no change whatsoever. After a year, people begin to notice some differences.
Jason has gotten a bit fluent in another language. His knowledge and wisdom of the world and his workspace has allowed him to work more efficiently. As a result, he receives a promotion and soars high in their company. Now he has more money and more opportunities. He travels more, and his life is undergoing many changes.
Alex is still much the same. Over the course of the year that we examined, he had developed no new habits. He lived with his routine and didn’t dare make a change to anything that he had.
Meanwhile, things weren’t looking so good for Richard. He started getting overweight. At the first few months, you couldn’t notice any change. But after a while, he began to gain weight. The extra weight had a toll on his body. He couldn’t work as well. He didn’t enjoy anything other than eating. He began to slip out of his obligations as a husband and a father. He lost all control over his life.
Who would have thought such a small change and habit could have such wonderful or devastating results?